Constructive Conflict

Luke 12:49-56

Change brings conflict. It must – it is necessary. Change is disruptive and the order of things gets shifted, and a shift in one area often causes a shift in another area as dynamics are rearranged. And while that conflict might feel bad, Jesus tells us that it is absolutely necessary to bring new life.

Conflict in and of itself is not a bad thing. The problem is not in the conflict, but in how we respond to the conflict that happens in our lives.

Often when there is conflict or change, we are tempted to back up, to turn around, and choose the path that will not create conflict. Jesus tells us that that would be the wrong choice.

Instead, we must fix our eyes on the purposes of God, and allow God to help us let everything else fall away that is not necessary. That may include the things that have kept us comfortable. That might include things that we have valued in the past. And it might include our own control.

God’s call is to get out of the status quo. (Reference Richard Rohr Daily Meditation “Liminal Space").

There’s a Christian song that came out a couple of years ago that has been really helpful to me in the midst of transition. It’s called “Just Be Held,” by Casting Crowns.

The chorus says: “So when you’re on your knees and answers seem so far away

You’re not alone, stop holding on and just be held

Your world’s not falling apart, it’s falling into place

I’m on the throne, stop holding on and just be held”


“Your world’s not falling apart, it’s falling into place.” When it feels like there is conflict and change all around us, perhaps we can trust that God is at work. Perhaps we can embrace and accept the change, and know that in the death of the old, God is creating something new.